1. Pick one job for the Focus. “Work without social alerts” is easier to configure than “make my phone less distracting.” Use separate Focus modes for work, sleep, reading, exercise, or personal time when their allowed contacts differ.
2. Choose people. Under Allow Notifications, add the contacts who should break through. You can instead silence selected people. Decide whether repeated calls and calls from allowed groups should pass through.
3. Choose apps. Allow essential apps such as calendar, authentication, transportation, or work messaging. Time Sensitive Notifications can bypass a Focus when enabled, so turn that option off if apps label too many alerts as urgent.
4. Review Focus Status. When sharing is enabled, supported messaging apps may tell others that your notifications are silenced. It does not reveal the name of your Focus.
Test the result with a real call and message. A configuration that looks right in Settings can still be wrong for an on-call shift, caregiver, or emergency contact.